Real Love

I often find people mistaking true love for something like it. They swear by it, get married because of it, and then wonder why they end up surprised by it , and in most cases destroyed by it. What is often the case is that you may love certain attributes about a person, such as their smile, or how they put it down in the bedroom, but rarely do people take the time to dig deep and find the real jewels of the person they claim to love, and begin to learn from that part of them.

Often the same mis-judgement that we use when we decide not to date that woman because she is fat, even though she embodies all that you need in a woman and wife... or you don't date that man because in his individuality it is hard for people to understand him, therefore he may be unemployable at times.... Rarely do they understand the reality in that the woman can lose weight, and that man can later start a business of his own because he is a leader not a follower.....


Those are the same reasons we have to learn to know the difference between love and something like it. 

Real Love compels the one who surrenders to it, and lets it guide their decisions. It is not about caring what other people think of you because of their choices, but rather being mature about your own. It is not about the physicality of things, or the control over others. It is about being realistic and being willing to succumb to the "Right Choice" rather than the "convenient" one.

But like anything of true value, "True Love" doesn't just appear out of thin air and make you giddy and child-like. True love is about maturity, and the careful guidance of your actions and thoughts. Because you know that what you say or do, can affect your loved one in ways that your "something like love" cannot fix. It is about knowing.  It isn't just about what you feel in your heart and crotch.  It is what you allow your mind to understand, soul to process, and heart to bring into action.   Missing any of those steps changes it from True Love... to something like it.